Some recent events in my life, along with phrases and comments by people and reading some background info of spiritual movements about their view of woman to woman relationships/sexuality nudged me to finally
write about this topic .
I am not going to talk about all these anti-homo thoughts and action that all people who consider themselves to be progressive, liberal, thoughtful , spiritual find disgusting – I am talking about this
more subtle heterror going on even in the liberal and especially spiritual minds (and even in those declaring themselves homosexual).
I read words like acceptance, I feel the I-am-such-a good-liberal-thinking-person and thus we love you, « really »... I listen to women telling me that never ever they have thought of a woman as a partner in ALL regards... I hear them saying they could not and don't want to ever imagine touching a woman in erotic ways... I hear talking about twinflames and Sacred Sex ~and of course this means men/women relationships only …..This is deep in awful ways...
So let us explore this topic and start with the underlying assumptions and mindsets regarding it.
Assumption 1:
There is something you have to accept around homosexuality … which in itself is a discrimination already.
Assumption 2:
Homosexuality is something we are born to .. nobody was ever able to prove this theory
( nor the opposite)
Assumption 3:
Women loving women has to do with their relationship towards men... NOT So.
Assumption 4:
Naturally / biologically men and women are meant to be together in sexual and emotional intercourse.
Prove ???? Anything lacking when we do not reduce sexuality and erotic to reproduction ?
Is this what we still are up to, while we trying to define role models for our girls beyond motherhood and being a well functioning loving wife? … PLEASE prove me wrong !
Assumption 5:
Sacred Sex is about a man and a woman in sexual intercourse. Because ? .. because female and male have to come together in perfect balance … okay, that's a biggy … coming from the same poeple talking and teaching about Oneness and inner Balance of the Yin and Yan as first step to take before we can come together and speak about Sacred Sex.... can we become real about this … ?
Today I will -hopefully - challenge your view and get some dust of old patriarchal stuff/shit off the topic.
I assume that when you are liberal and spiritual you might easily be able to see the old patina of fundamentalist beliefs in what is going on...and that you will be more then happy to get rid of it ;-)
I do not care about biologistical views. As a Spirit Woman I can see that my body has a function and
the special function in a woman is to be able to give life (birth) and to nurture ( breast feed) ~she doesn't HAVE to . The way of life in my body as a woman is that of tides and circles , chaotic , wild and very intuitive.
There already ends my determination.
The capability to give and nurture life does not reduce me to giving birth and life to children. Women deciding to not having children are still having the quality of life givers and still experienceing the same circles, waves and tides which can be used in every life nurturing aspect . ...e;g. Building wonder-filled architecture, creating art, serving the community, going deep down in contemplation or high into channeling and connection.
Very consciously I am using the term « women loving women » as I am totally aware that being lesbian has not necessarily to do with loving woman, but oftenwith the merely sexual attraction and often with a unconscious hate towards women and lots of old patriarchal views about women ( denial of self in its deepest meaning)
What I adress here is Sexuality/Erotic born from Love.
The Sacred Dance in a woman is about re-membering that we are sacred, that we ned to trust into our hearts (not in the overlaying in often misleading feelings) , intuition and enlighten our minds from our Heart. Then with our enlightened minds we go out and create the world we wish to see. … a similar job for us as for the men.
Only that we have some capacities given to us, that allow for us to « see » some aspects that cannot yet be seen by most of the men.
When I have danced this Sacred Dance, nothing is lacking in ME :) … therefore Sacred Sax is NOT about bringing two pieces together in order to become one . Sacred Sex is a choice , not needed to make connection to the Divine but a celebration and ceremony I choose because I feel the power of two balanced and divine souls coming together in real love lifting up the vibrations not only for the own joy and pleasure but to ascend vibrations to another plane .
The strength this sort of loving gives, expands and extends to all sentient beings like a praye,r and carried into the life, it is a powerful source of positive change.
When two women who dave done their inner work come together in Sacred Sex this is the most powerful communion imaginable as two forces capable to give and nurture life come together and honor themselves in the other.
Why is it that this is still such a taboo and "no go" in the so called spiritual scene ?
Because it is the final curtain falling for patriarchy. It is the most powerful thing to happen.
With that we step beyond all illusions still living in us. We as women wake up to the beauty of our being, on all levels including our beauty-full REAL bodies... and celebrate this beauty on all levels... we touch each other in True Love and do not longer buy into all the separational thoughts that keep us apart from each other as Sisters and
the powerful connections we could create to really make a different world happening .
Just ask yourself how much of your power is lost in thought about « not being enough » … can you just get a glimpse of the power coming back to you when you start loving a sister fully and thus recognize yourself in her and realize that this is ALL you need ? Nothing missing … !?
Will that keep you from caring for humanity, for the brothers, for the children, for a better world ? NO . Au contraire :)
It will empower you fully …
So my wake up call question to my sisters is :
are you ready to wake up from the ideas that we were born to make hetero sex … ready to awaken to YOUR truth (go back to the feelings you had as a child – be honest to yourself)… can you truly see the beauty in your sister or are your eyes and hearts still blinded by the patriarchal veils?
… are you ready to love at least one sister in all aspects ...and thus do the same to yourself ?
, because they still exist deeply in us, on our DNA and in old memories.