The Bardo State of Mind and Heart

Reflection after client session : 
when starting to awake we see all with new eyes . Our life , people and their "shortcomings" , the daily life struggle we have created out of our woundedness. This is a tough period of Bardo . 

The old is not totally gone, the new not totally clear and manifest. In this Bardo time we deal with tendencies to grasp and get back to the old patterns and feelings in order to feel safe and home.
The Bardo's bottomlessness scares us deep down to the bones..
It is a good thing to make that state conscious. Being conscious about it allows us to make more conscious choices... We can identify where we grasp , we can choose where we still want / need to hold onto something and where we are ready to loosen the grip and see where we end up when we leave ourselves to the flow ...
We choose where we can die into and are ready for total surrender and where we are not ready yet. Making the Bardo process conscious is making the dark hole conscious we have been so afraid of most of our lifes and meet it with open eyes .

Bardo : The Tibetan word bardo (བར་དོ་ Wylie: bar do) means literally "intermediate state"—also translated as "transitional state" or "in-between state" or "liminal state". 

Withholding Emotions

~Withholding Your Emotions ~

Withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It show also in an unwillingness/incapability to give support or positive attention, even to the people you love. 
We have all known someone who is impossible to please,
and most suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly , unpleasant silence with no explanation.
At the same time, we might recognize our moments of withholding. The moments when we deny our emotions rather than express them.
Most of us have been on both sides .

Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, we be-live that withholding protects us from suffering. But the contrary is true.
Withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it as well as to those withholding.
It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.
Unfortunately we tend to see it as "normal communication" ~ "social Behaviour".

In order to heal we need to break this silence. We need to understand that that what might have been a survival tool once now only hurts and adds to our pains.

Easiest way is to begin the process of breaking out of this pattern by finding a safe place where you can start to allow yourself to be truly seen AS YOU ARE.